031 Staying Curious About Email Marketing (& Making it Not Suck) with Ashley Burnside

SO excited to bring you an conversation with my friend Ashley Burnside, Mad Scientist Email Marketing Specialist at The Punk Project!

In this episode we talk about Ashley’s journey of self-growth and discovery, and how she uses her introversion and nerdiness to help her clients NAIL their email marketing.

Ashley is a Rebel through and through. using her Strategist persona to combine what she knows with how she can make her plans feel really good to execute.

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030 Bringing Your Whole Self Into Your Relationships with Alice TJ

SO excited to bring you our first interview of August with my girl Alice TJ of Alice TJ Coaching. She is a Relationship Coach and Communication Educator who helps people intentionally create that “fuck yeah” type of love we all crave.

In this episode we get insight into something Alice and her partner Ryan do together regularly to make sure they get focused time together on the regular (hint: it’s a WALL CALENDAR, y’all - you know we love a Wall Calendar over here).

Our big to-do is digging into the guts of what it takes to bring your whole self, pretty/ugly/sexy/sparkly/boob sweat and all into your relationship with yourself, with your partner(s), with your business…

BASICALLY you gotta do you before you can do anything else.

Which is what we’re all about, people.

I had so so so much fun hanging out behind the mic with Alice and I cannot wait for you to meet her!

Make sure you click the link above to follow her on the ‘gram and connect - her stories are hilarious and SUPS helpful.

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029 Opening a Brick and Mortar Business in 5 Months with Alyssa Cairns

I had the pleasure of sitting down with Alyssa Cairns, co-founder and all around badass of momHIVE, a community and coworking space for moms and entrepreneurs in Grand Rapids, MI.

She shares with us her story of big life changes, and the challenges that come with being a mom and an entrepreneur.

The idea for momHIVE began in February when Alyssa voiced her desire to have a space to do focused work outside of her home, and she was met with a massive amount of interest from other moms needing the same sort of space.

Between that post in February and opening day of the momHIVE space was just 5 short months - a time in which Alyssa got a crash course in what it really takes to open a brick & mortar business, how to listen to what the community really needs, and being able to deliver on it all while (mostly) keeping her sanity.

Alyssa is JUST the type of Rebel I wanted to have on to show you that even your biggest wildest goals can happen when you lean into your natural tendencies, listen to your audience, and trust your inner voice.

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028 3 Things Perceivers Do REALLY Well In Goal Setting

Perceivers are SO intuitive, enviably so by the rest of us! If you’re a Perceiver, you just always seem to know what your next move should be. 

If you ask them what their next project is, they’ve got it all mapped out in their minds. They’ve got all the ideas, and what is perhaps so intimidating to others is that they seem so SURE of them all.

When it comes to goals, that superpower helps Perceivers make sure they’re setting the right goals.

But if you aren’t a Perceiver...how do you know if you’re setting the right goals?

Entrepreneurship gives SO many of us that shiny object syndrome. Everywhere you turn it seems like there’s a new trend - batching, A/B scheduling, courses, digital products, YouTube channels...when you are still trying to get your business feet underneath you it can be hard to figure out what your next goals should be to help you grow and profit in a way that you can feel aligned with and good about. 

Because the only thing worse than setting the wrong goal in business, is setting the wrong goal AND not feeling like you’re able to show up and put in our best effort because it’s so not you.

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027 Setting Goals That Actually Feel Good

Feelers are more likely to be people pleasers than Strategists or Perceivers, which means a few things. First, it’s hard for Feelers to put themselves first, and their goals are often based on how they can provide and care for the people that mean most to them.

This means for Feelers, your best goal setting strategies are going to include selfish self care, setting and enforcing boundaries, and regularly checking in with your needs along the way.s

Let’s talk about what I mean when I say selfish self care.

If you’re a Feeler, incorporating self care into your everyday routine might feel impossible. Because in your mind, every minute is spoken for from the moment you open your eyes in the morning to the moment your head hits the pillow at night.

Your plate feels full AF. And it is full. I won’t deny that. Between your kids, your partner, your work, keeping up the house, running errands, trying to be a stand up human being and hopefully getting sleep somewhere in there, it’s tough to figure out when you could feasibly fit anything else in.

If you tuned in to last week’s episode, I talked a lot about simple self care, meaning simplifying your self care routines so you’re not necessarily taking up more time, just using it differently and enlisting some extra help to make it happen.

For you as a Feeler, that’s only part of the equation.

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026 Forget Everything You Think You Know About Goal Setting

Strategists are notorious overcomplicators, perfectionists, and control-freaks. Which means when it comes to goals, your best bet is going to be focused around simple self care activities, setting fewer goals, and building in simplicity reminders for yourself along the way.

If you’re a Strategist, incorporating self care into your everyday routines might feel super overwhelming. Because in your mind, you’re going from zero to a two hour morning routine that you can’t feasibly execute - meditation, morning pages, exercise, oil pulling, reading, coffee, showering, doing your hair, doing some household work, all at your leisure before the kids wake up and the daily chaos begins.

And so what you do you? You just don’t do any of it. You’re an all in or an all out type of a person if you’re a Strategist.

That’s why the emphasis on SIMPLE self care.

See by simplifying the routines, you’re able to go all in on it, the way you are naturally wired to do.

Goal setting feels hard and big *that’s what she said* but honestly, they’re only as hard and big as you make them. Simplicity goes a long way for you strategists out there and the three month goal planner is going to help you execute on that simplicity in a way that feels natural to you.

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025 Goals Don't Follow a Timetable and Neither Should You

So look, I've seen a lot of folks talking about goals recently, but I mean, none of them are The Goal Designer #justsaying⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

There's a lot of fear mongering, intentionally or not that you probably wasted the first half of 2019 and how the hell are you going to make the last six months count.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

To that I say, FUCK. THAT.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

Every day counts whether you're working toward your goals or not. Every day is valid. Every day has meaning. ⠀⠀

That's why my goal setting process is different.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

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024 You Can't Fail Summer, Rebel with Sandy Schwartz

Huge, special Rebel welcome to someone I’ve known since I was 9 years old, my former teacher, Sandy Schwartz!

She’s been teaching for 30 years, she’s a mom, a grandmother, and a well-rounded perspective to end our Summer Like a Rebel series on.

Sandy is a Perceiver rebel persona and she gives us the low down and some awesome tips on how you can do Summer like a Rebel.

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023 Give your guilt a public flogging and do what you f*cking want this Summer (Perceivers listen up)

It’s been raining a lot here in Michigan, so all the outside plans you were excited to check off the list and do keep being thwarted by rain or storms. Too windy or chilly to swim. Can’t have that bonfire if the wood is damp.

Traditional advice here would be to have backup plans for your plans.

But you’re a perceiver! You don’t do backup plans. You do what your gut tells you to do.

I’m here to tell you to embrace the shit out of your gut. Your gut doesn’t let you down, friend. It’s the rest of the world.

Your work this summer isn’t to have backup plans to maximize the fun-having. It’s actually to do the work on your disappointment and expectations of anything and anyone that isn’t you when plans change.

That’s that whole WTF thing. Willing to be Flexible.

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022 How to Do Summer Like a Feeler

We are just 10 short days away from it being officially Summertime in the US on the day this episode goes live, which means most of the people I know are shifting from the stale winter energy and the workerbee energy of Spring into the sweet slowness of the Summer season.

Since we’re talking about our Feelers out there today, let’s quickly go over the bones of this Rebel Planning Persona.

The Feeler wears her heart on her sleeve, is people oriented, conscientious of others, and has a creative side that she downplays but secretly wishes she had the courage to show the world. She bases the decisions she makes and the planning she does on how it will make others feel about her.

As a Feeler, your natural tendency is to give away your time and energy, oftentimes to your detriment. Because of this, you need to be careful of how much of yourself you give away, and you also need to be in tune with your motivations behind it. Are you doing it altruisticly, or are you hoping to get something in return? And if that’s the case, are you making your desires and expectations clear?

Each of the Rebel Planning Personas has a Plan Like a Rebel strategy - for The Feelers, that is to P-Y-T - Protect Your Time.

Feelers, during the Summer months, your go-to move is to spend a lot your free time coordinating and making plans that make sure everyone is having a great time this Summer. Everyone except for you.

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021 How to Do Summer Like a Strategist

This month’s theme is: Summer like a rebel.

We are officially into JUNE 2019, which means for most of us in the US, we are shifting hard into Summer mode. In last week’s episode I talked a lot about the energy shifts that happen naturally to us throughout the year, and for most of the folks I know, Summertime is a sticky sweet mixture of slowing down in your personal life while still trying to keep up with the breakneck pace of the world around you.

If you have school aged kids, you’re balancing your work with their summer break. You’re more free and less free at the same time. Maybe you’re like my husband, who is working from home part of the week over the Summer. You’ve got weekend trips planned. Maybe you’re outdoorsy and you like to camp for some reason (hard pass for me). But you also still have life’s everyday demands. Laundry. Meals. Bills. You’ve probably got this idea in your head of what you want your summer to look and feel like.

This week’s episode is dedicated to The Strategists out there. You may have figured that out based on the title of this episode, which is How to Summer Like a Strategist.

A quick overview of the Strategist persona for anyone who new here or unfamiliar, The Strategist is a visionary, able to see how all the pieces of the puzzle could come together to get them where they want to go. Strategists are pretty great at planning things out, and they thrive on what they think is routine, but what is really control.

You might think that routine and rebellion shouldn’t go together, but they absolutely do. You see, for our Strategists out there, they are able to find their freedom and live their truths through that routine.

Each of the Rebel Planning Personas has a Plan Like a Rebel strategy - for The Strategists, that is to K-I-S-S: Keep It Simple Strategist!

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020 How to Harness your Rebel Energy All Year Long

There’s an energy shift that happens between Spring and Summer. Have you ever felt it?

For a lot of folks out there, it’s the shift to a slower, more playful, more relaxed energy. It invites you to play outside, to gather with friends, to think less about your goals and more on your weekend plans. It’s beer by the pool, grilling out, and letting your skin absorb the sunlight like a sizzling hug from the sky.

And for others, like me, and maybe like you too, Rebel, it’s a different shift. It’s more relaxed, yes. It’s more playful, yes. But it’s also more focused.  It’s basking in the air conditioning and introverting your ass off. It’s reflecting on the first half of the year, and looking ahead and what’s to come in the next half. It’s trying something new because there’s something inside of you screaming for it. It’s a bolder energy than any other time of year.

Whichever end of that spectrum you skew more toward, I think that even just acknowledging an energy shift is important in our world of hustle and consistency.

That’s something Rebels tend to struggle with - consistency. Whether that’s because you’re consistent to a fault (aka it’s tough for you to relax) or because in your body consistency = hives, it’s a universal Rebel truth. At least in our little corner of the universe.

Today I want to cover first why acknowledging and embracing your natural energy shifts can only help you as you plan throughout your year to keep your actions aligned with your values, and keep you from pulling your hair out with stress, most of the time. Then, we’ll talk about how to know when the energy shifts again around the Fall.

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019 Are you a Ramona, a Lilith, or an Alex? Meet the Rebel Planning Personas!

A few weeks ago, I started talking about the Planning Personality framework I was building. And then I abruptly stopped talking about it.

What the hell, right?

Let’s talk about that. I was feeling SO much resistance to it. The creative energy behind it just was not freaking there. But the belief in it still is.

So what’s a rebel to do?

A rebel takes the path of least resistance. A rebel lets things be easy.

So today I want to share what has come out of letting things be easy, following the creative flow, and tell you about the Rebel Planning Personas.

I’ve taken some time to get to know each of these personas, starting with an avatar icon, and letting them tell me what their names are. Their titles. How old they are. What they do for work. Where they live. What they’re afraid of.

What has come out of this, is a new quiz that I’m putting together. It’s going to replace the current quiz, Which Planner Do You Need Based on Your Tendency Type.

This quiz will tell you which of the Rebel Planning Personas you are, and tell you your Rebel Planning Strategy - how you can let things be easy in a way that aligns with your Planning persona.

So...you ready to meet my personas?

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018 Polyamory in Planning: Why Non-Monogamy Might Be The Future of Planning

Today I want to dig into the concept of Polyamory when it comes to planning.

If you’re not familiar, polyamory is a form of consensual ethical non-monogamy, meaning anyone you enter into a relationship with gives their enthusiastic consent for each person to pursue other relationships that satisfy them be that sexually, emotionally, mentally, or a mixture of those things.

Now I’m not saying you should enter into an intimate relationship with your planner here, but I DO want to explore what creating a planning system that uses multiple types of planners to meet your different needs could look like.

Part of planning like a rebel means doing what you need to do to live your life, for you, on your terms.

What that looks like is going to be different for everyone.

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017 F*ck your to-do list, make a could-do list instead

The expectations that SO many people have when it comes to planning is that you need to have every minute accounted for, and that if you aren’t planning every little thing, you’re not doing enough, or doing it “right”.

Boxes. Those are ALL boxes you’re putting yourself in, friend.

And for what? To what end? What good does planning that way do for you?

You might think “well that’s how other people plan” or “that’s how I was taught to plan”, or it might just be what you think of when you think of planning. But you’re wrong. Just straight up wrong.

It’s not your fault, but let’s talk about what it would be like for planning to be easy. And what it actually TAKES to let it be easy. And how you can break the thought patterns that planning has to be one specific thing.

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016 Stop giving your planner so much power and harness your own Big Dick Energy instead

What if, instead of it being a self-fulfilling prophecy, you just didn’t give planning as much power as you do?

What if planning wasn’t this big thing that is either all in or all out?

What if Planning was just the vehicle for you to live life on your own terms?

How good would that feel?

I think we’re all under so much pressure to have it all together and it’s like if you can’t have it all together you’re a big hot mess.

Which just isn’t true.

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015 Time Management is BS - Here's what you should focus on instead

A few weeks ago I thought this episode would be about one of the other planning pillars...I think it’s actually about how to handle things when your plans aren’t executed perfectly.

Over the years I’ve been able to hone in on about how much time different tasks will take me to do, and I can plan accordingly. But when it comes to bigger projects, especially ones like this personality framework, it’s anybody’s dang guess.

I run into this a lot with my clients before we work together and it’s because of the to-do list oriented way most people plan. And further than that, it’s a simple case of energy management vs time management.

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014 Are Your Personality Types Internally or Externally Driven to Plan?

Today we are talking about DRIVE, one of the four pillars of planning that I talked about in last week’s episode. The four pillars of planning are something I’ve been putting together behind the scenes for a while, through conversations with my customers and clients, reading books and blogs, listening to a million podcasts, and really just getting a deeper knowledge of the psychology behind planning in general.

I am going to be completely transparent here a minute - I had a REALLY hard time getting this podcast episode out, because I haven’t fully flushed out the details of these planning pillars yet. I don’t have things as tidy and wrapped up in a bow as I would like. And it’s a little scary to share something that’s so raw and unfinished with you all.

BUT growth comes from stepping outside of your comfort zone, and I am going to share everything I have so far - just know this has a long way to go, but I am excited to be co-creating this planning personality framework along side you.

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013 The Biggest Reason You've Never Been Able to Use Your Planner Consistently

In today’s episode I’m diving into exactly why you’ve never been able to stick with using a planner consistently.

Over the past few months I’ve been creating a planning personality framework, based on four pillars of planning. I firmly believe that everyone is capable of planning consistently with ease and alignment to themselves, and all you need is to learn the strategies that are actually going to work for you.

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